Overcoming The Emotional Stress in our Lives
We are in uncharted waters where we mamas are now more than ever required to hold the family unit together. This last week I was feeling more than overwhelmed as I tried to figure out how to start managing my home life, career, and homeschooling my children, as schools all over the country started to close their doors due to the Coronavirus.
I felt like screaming not so much because of what was happening in the outside world, but the disruption in my inside world at home, the routines, habits, and daily schedule I had worked so hard to create and follow through over the years was now being completely disrupted and I had to start to adjust and adapt.
Creating habits and routines in our lives can be life-changing, but sometimes it can backfire when we solely rely on those routines and don’t create some wiggle room, which I hadn’t done, figuring that nothing would ever disrupt my life as much as it has now, how naive of me.
But what greater lesson can we have, than having a life-altering experience like ours in 2020, where we are forced to rethink how we manage distractions, overcome obstacles, and re-align ourselves with our purpose all while remaining productive and efficient. That’s why today I wanted to focus on productivity and efficiency, and how we can always adapt in whatever situation we are thrown in order to develop consistency in whatever format we have to create in every diverse situation.
So let’s take a look into history because I always find that our history has more to teach us than our current leaders and trainers, history is our greater teacher and if we can go back, evaluate, and take what would apply to our lives now, imagine the power we have in our hands to overcome, adapt, and thrive.
One of our greatest writers in history, William Shakespeare, was known for his poetry, playwright, and drama.
In 1593, the black plague came sweeping through England, causing the death of many of his friends, relatives, including his three sisters, and sadly one of his sons.
That same year, due to the plague, all theatres closed their doors to assist in the social distancing that we can now relate to in today’s day and age. At the time, Shakespeare turned to write poetry.
Between 1593 and 1603, London was hit with various plagues and diseases that would end up taking the lives of thousands. During this time frame, Shakespeare wrote some of the most memorable content, poems and playwright that would be known and revered centuries later, some to include “King Lear”, “The Tempest”, and “Timon of Athens”, just to name a few.
Sir Isaac Newton
In his early 20’s, London was hit with yet another plague that would send all students back home to practice social distancing until they were able to slow down the impact of the death rates in the country. Isaac Newton returned to his home in Woolsthorpe Manor.
It was during this year of a public shut down that Newton thrived at home in mathematics. During this time he started his early work on what we now call Calculus and where he also discovered his theories on optics.
More notably, what we recall from Newton’s time at home was his discovery of gravity, while he sat under an apple tree in his yard, he was bonked by an apple and suddenly Newton understood the Law of Gravity and Motion.
The 2020 Lesson
Although as we begin our own social distancing and having an unknown date of reconvening into our social circles, what we can confirm is that in every century there has been an opportunity for individuals and families to distance themselves for a time.
England was one of our greatest examples of what a plague can do to a country and how it can actually help it flourish over time. With that being said, I do want to be respectful to those who are being impacted directly by this virus and the disruptions in finances and overall well-being, but what I do hope that you get out of this, is the opportunity that lies ahead of us. So in hopes to give greater encouragement and support through this new phase in our lives, here are three things that may help you thrive and propel to greater heights as you slow down and restructure your days.
1. Daring Greatly
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, who face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; But who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms. The great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at best knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who at worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.”
— "The man in the arena", Theodore Roosevelt
Go do the THING...
What have you been holding off on doing while your life has been overwhelmed with appointments, meetings, networking events, conferences, family gatherings, sports practices for the kids, presentations, etc?
What if this time could be the time you actually go do “the thing” you’ve been holding off on doing?
My challenge for you right now is to utilize the time wisely, rather than binging on Netflix, creating, designing, building what was placed in your heart years ago.
2. Have grace for yourself
“Grace is meeting those moments on the journey, then picking yourself back up, being humble enough to learn, and not being too hard on yourself.”
— Michelle Peluso, CEO of Guilt Groupe
Life is messy and so is parenthood.
As we adjust to a new normal, we have to have a lot of grace on ourselves as we try to develop a home routine that will require us to not only continue working on our own projects but also maintain our children busy in school work while homeschooling. This is no easy feat as some of you may have already experienced in our first week of being quarantined.
My children’s education is a priority but so are my dreams and goals as an entrepreneur. So how do you balance both of these while trying to create, rest and recover, and also maintain your sanity?
I’ve quickly learned that although having a schedule is critical, having more flexibility is even more important than exactness in our routines. So have grace, be kind to yourself, and be willing to go with the flow, and that’s coming from a Lifestyle coach who’s trained others on how to develop daily disciplines and consistency.
Discipline and consistency will have its place in your new life, but read on how I am adapting my previous teachings to our new home management.
3. Capitalize your first two hours of the day
“You deserve to have an extraordinary quality of life and I’m here to tell you, my friend, it will begin for you in the morning.”
— Brendon Burchard
Take control of your mornings.
I’ve spoken many times to the power of our morning routines, but today I want to focus on a few pointers in order to get you on track for working from home.
Now that our homes are at full capacity 24/7 it may seem nearly impossible to get anything done when it comes to your daily tasks, goals, and projects on that list you’ve started to keep track of. But here’s the thing, how these next few weeks play out WILL be dependent on how disciplined and consistent you remain in keeping a strong morning routine going for yourself.
Listen, you are the adult in the home, I know it seems nearly impossible to keep control of your children, because I’m right there with you, with the crying, yelling, and fighting between all three of my kids while I try to homeschool them and also work on my computer, but what I do have control of is the silent productive first two hours of my morning before my children wake up. So here’s what I suggest you do during those hours in order to better prepare you for the unknown.
1. Spend 10-15 min planning out your day, again being flexible but also strategic. It may take a few days to get that schedule right as you figure out how you manage the children throughout the day, but within a few days, you should have an idea.
2. Spend 10-15 min feeding your mind, soul, and body. Pray, read, write, and move that body. I personally need to connect with my Heavenly Father each morning so He can direct my paths. After I connect with Him, the rest just seems easier to do. After sitting down and planning my day and journaling, I seem to have a greater capacity to receive inspiration throughout my day and receive personal revelation for my life. I think we can all use personal revelation during this time.
3. Move that body. Get in at least a 30-60 min workout. My recommendation is to do at least two days of strength training, and three days of cardio. With a consistent workout schedule that you can easily do from home, you’ll release the tension and stress your body may be holding onto. And if you need any help in this department, I have some great resources to help you from home.
Lastly, what I do believe is one of the most stressful years of our lives in this century, I also do know to be our greatest opportunity for growth, for when there is a hardship, there are problem solving and solutions. I truly believe that we are not given any burden we cannot carry and though this time may seem truly burdensome, we have so much we can learn from our quarantine and social distancing.
I hope that in a year's time, we will see new inventions, bolder entrepreneurs, exquisite content, materials, resources and tools that will empower our next generation. I know that as I personally take this time to finally do those things I have been holding off on doing, that I will be able to truly live into my greater purpose that God placed in my heart over five years ago.
As Brene Brown stated in “The Call to Courage”, to be vulnerable is to be courageous. May you find courage during such a vulnerable time.
Originally published at Our Best Year Ever Project on March 24, 2020.